10 Must-Read Books for Mental Health and Emotional Wellbeing

Without any further ado, here is the list of the books summarized in this article – for all of you who are just as impatient as I am:

Now, for all of my overachievers, can you already name the authors? 😀
For those of you, who want to dig a little deeper and not just go and buy those books anyway, happy reading!

Back in 2011, while I was studying to become an occupational therapist, I was first forced to think about my own mental health and wellbeing, when three rather challenging things happened. Two of which can be labelled as „grieve-related“ (the passing of an elderly family member and a heart-break) and the third was my first ever confrontation with a friends live-threatening car accident. While his body was healing surprisingly fast – it is impressive how quickly a body can rebuild five broken bones, isn’t it? – this mind and emotions where still stuck in the past. And although I was doing my best to be a „good friend“ and show up for the person, nothing seemed to help (obviously, from my 10-year-later perspective, but still…). So I started to wonder what factors affect our mental health and how we can „prepare“ for the sad, hard, tragic, heart-breaking, overwhelming and challgening moments in our life. You can read more about this my other posts about „resilience“. But I was also wondering how science and literature described our „normal“ and „healthy state“ and what I could learn as a „home-base“ to better understand the mental inner workings of a person. I was also looking for more dopamine-inducing, helpful reads which today I would describe as glimmer reads: the positive equivalent of trauma. Knowledge to help and comfort, prepare and strengthen me.

So, here is my list of the Top 10 books you should read, that I wished existed back in my old study days:

1. 7 1/2 Lessons About the Brain by Lisa Feldman Barrett
   Why Read It: Lisa Feldman Barrett, a renowned neuroscientist, delivers a concise and fascinating exploration of how our brains work in this engaging book. 7 1/2 Lessons About the Brain breaks down complex neuroscience into digestible insights, covering topics like how our brains are not simply reactive but predictive, how they function as part of a social network, and how brain myths (like the idea that emotions are hardwired) can mislead us.
   
   Takeaway: Our brains are more adaptable and intricate than we might think. Your Brain Predicts, Not Reacts: Barrett states that our brains are predictive organs, constantly forecasting what will happen next based on past experiences. It made me aware that not every first thought (an axious one, a fearful one, a depressed one) is true! It might be just a conditioned brain-reaction to suit my auto-pilot and the learned assumptions about what lies ahead of me. This was kinda hard to lean into and force me to rethink my approach to working with clients and explaining their reactive patterns in everyday life.
   Social Connections Shape Your Brain: The brain is a social organ, deeply influenced by the people around you. Prioritizing positive relationships and building a supportive social network can enhance your emotional and mental well-being. My own takeaway? I loved the people around me, and I didn’t feel the need to make any… adjustments. But I did change the content I consumed daily, delivered by podcasters, youtubers and fellow bloggers. I also made sure to reflect on my feelings towards the fictonal characters in my books, that I would spend more than 3h with while reading… and I believe that made a huge difference, too.
   Emotions Are Constructed, Not Hardwired: Barrett’s research suggests that emotions are not fixed reactions but are constructed by the brain based on context. This means you have more control over your emotional experiences than you might think, allowing you to reshape your emotional responses. To really lean into this, I focused on my own journaling about emotions and the context in which they occured. It really gave me new insights into my everyday emotional life, which helped my to escape a personal emotional hamster wheel during my grieving, aspecially in regards to the love I had thought I lost.
   The Brain is Highly Adaptive: Understanding neuroplasticity—the brain’s ability to change—can inspire you to adopt new habits and challenge limiting beliefs. Knowing your brain is adaptable means you can continuously learn and improve, even later in life. Though this wasn’t news to me, it felt great to find scientific literature to read and archive away. Sometimes, I will print out info like that and hand it to my clients and students. So that was very helpful content for me.
   Take Charge of Your Body Budget: Barrett introduces the concept of the „body budget,“ which refers to how the brain manages energy in the body. Simple daily habits like getting enough sleep, proper nutrition, and managing stress can help your brain function optimally, improving your overall mental and physical health. You can imagine that I cannot summarize the practical take-aways from this in a few lines. In fact, you can download my guide to optimizing your body budget and „body spending“ in the ressource section. We included the knowledge from 60+ books to give you a good overview, including tips and tricks to enhance yours quickly.
   
   Perfect For: Readers who are curious about neuroscience and want a deeper understanding of how the brain shapes emotions, thoughts, and behavior, without diving into dense academic texts. This book offers a fresh perspective on brain health and mental well-being.
   
   Feldman-Barrett also wrote a book called „How emotions are made“, which is the answer to the question plagueing me when I was a still a student in 2010. So, make sure to check that out as well, if it suits your interests. Just be warned: It has way more pages and is less „reader friendly“, with a stronger focus on the scientific side of things.
   

2. The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D
Why Read It: This groundbreaking book explores how trauma physically affects the brain and body. Dr. van der Kolk introduces readers to various ways of healing, from talk therapy to neurofeedback, helping individuals understand and overcome the long-lasting effects of trauma.

Takeaway: Trauma isn’t just an emotional experience—it’s also physical. Healing requires an integrated approach that addresses both the mind and body. My most-valued takeaway of this must-read was me focussing on creating a safe space for myself and my loved ones in everyday life. That not only includes physical safety, but also emotional safety. Judgementalness is a no-no in our home. We value respect, an open heart and open ears for listening here and I hope soooo badly that my daughter will thrive with a) the skills she learns from us as role models and b) the group of adults around her, that would do anything to see her flourish.

There is a huge variety of therapeutic approaches to turn to, if needed. Talking therapy and medication are not the only options you have. That made me feel empowered in my own approach of working through stuff, on my journey to a balanced, healthy lifestyle.

Perfect For: Anyone struggling with unresolved trauma or seeking a deeper understanding of how trauma influences mental health. If you want to understand the needs of someone who lived through trauma, possibly in their early hears, this is one of the classics.

3. Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?“ by Dr. Julie Smith

Why Read It: It’s an essential guide to understanding and managing mental health and common challenges. Written by a clinical psychologist, the book is packed with practical advice that’s easy to apply to everyday life. From dealing with anxiety to managing low moods, Dr. Smith distills complex psychological concepts into simple, actionable tips anyone can use.

Takeaway: The book offers clear, practical strategies to manage emotional health. One key takeaway is the importance of self-compassion when navigating difficult emotions, encouraging readers to approach themselves with kindness rather than self-criticism. Smith also provides tools for emotional regulation, like recognizing and labeling feelings, and understanding how to process negative emotions rather than avoiding them.
I have used many of the ressources provided for my own clients and for myself.

Perfect For: Anyone looking for quick, actionable advice on how to improve their mental wellbeing, especially those new to mental health tools and wanting easy-to-digest strategies to better manage daily struggles.

4. The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown

Why Read It: Brené Brown has become a household name for her research on vulnerability, shame, and self-compassion. Her TEDtalks have views up in the millions. In this book, she encourages readers to embrace imperfections, let go of societal pressures, and live authentically, to strengthen their mental health.

Takeaway: Perfectionism isn’t a badge of honor—it’s a barrier to happiness. Letting go of perfection allows you to live more freely and with self-compassion. Perfectionism often leads to feelings of inadequacy, but by practicing self-compassion and accepting our flaws, we can build more fulfilling lives and relationships… Oh and btw., hearing for the first time (at least, I heard it from her the first time), that perfectionism is a not-too-good copingmechanism to avoid shame and the fear of failure was a huge blast for me. So if you want to be gently reminded of your own worth and beauty beyond the superficial, Brene Brown is your go to. I often recommend her books to my clients as well and it’s been part of our bookclub reads many times.

Perfect For: Anyone struggling with self-worth or perfectionism and wanting to embrace their vulnerabilities.

There are many other books by Brene Brown, one of which is Daring Greatly. It could have been on the list as well, I just didnt want to double up on a single author, since there are too many great scientst and writers out there who shall be mentioned.

5. Behave: The Biology of Humans at Our Best and Worst“ by Robert Sapolsky

Why Read It: Behave is a comprehensive and thought-provoking exploration of human behavior, written by renowned neuroendocrinologist Robert Sapolsky. The book delves into the biological, psychological, and environmental factors that influence how we act, from moments of kindness to extreme aggression. Sapolsky’s approach spans multiple disciplines—neuroscience, psychology, genetics, and sociology—giving readers a deep, layered understanding of why we behave the way we do.

Takeaway: Sapolsky challenges the simplistic explanations of human behavior by examining how everything from neural activity milliseconds before an action to evolutionary pressures thousands of years ago can affect our decisions. One of the key messages is that human behavior is incredibly complex, driven by a convergence of biological and environmental factors, which makes the study of our „best and worst“ moments all the more fascinating.

When I read the book for the first time – yes, I have read it more than once already, because its 600+ pages to digest – I found the content around decision-making very intrigueing. Almost like „Thinking fast and slow“ it made me reflect on past decisions that needed to be made and how I was wasting time by putting off decisions. Additional takeaway: being reminded that we excuse our own behavior with the context we are living in „I am late because I couldnt get up, because I was so tired, because my kid didnt sleep well, because there was just too much going on all week long“, but often quickly judge others behaviors and conclude that their actions are a lack of good character, e.g. „he is late because he is a slack“.

Perfect For: Readers who are curious about the scientific reasons behind human actions, especially those interested in how biology interacts with the social and environmental influences around us. Whether you want to better understand empathy, altruism, or aggression (which all affect your mental health), Sapolsky breaks down these behaviors in an accessible, engaging manner.

6. The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris

Why Read It: Based on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), The Happiness Trap debunks the myth that happiness should be a constant state. Instead, it encourages readers to embrace their emotions—positive and negative—and focus on living a meaningful life.

Takeaway: Happiness isn’t a destination, and avoiding negative emotions can trap us in a cycle of discontent. True happiness comes from accepting all emotions and focusing on what truly matters.

The book made me think about what really matters to me in life. I learned that happiness basically is a by-product of you taking action in the right direction, making decisions for the future you and caring for your own mental and physical health, without blaming and being distracted by negative emotions.

Also, ACT therapy has been a very inspirational approach for my own therapies.

Perfect For: Anyone who is tired of chasing happiness and looking for a more balanced approach to emotional wellbeing.

7. Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb

Why Read It: Part memoir, part self-help, this witty and insightful book follows therapist Lori Gottlieb through her sessions with patients, as well as her own experience in therapy. Gottlieb’s vulnerable storytelling makes this an accessible and comforting read for anyone questioning their own mental health journey.

Takeaway: Therapy is a shared human experience; everyone, even therapists, can benefit from seeking help and understanding their emotional struggles.

In a very witty, smart way, Gottlieb includes very many basics and beliefs of psychotherapy in this book. For me, there were so many „caught it!!“-moments when I spotted another one and it almost became a little treasure hunt. Additionally, following along her clients stories reminded me to be patient with my clients. We all need the right space and time to open up – and we wont with anyone. So it also became a motivator for me, to be THAT person that people can rely on and trust, both in my private and professional life.

Perfect For: Readers who think about going into therapy or are new to it and curious about the process from both sides of the couch.

8. An Unquiet Mind by Kay Redfield Jamison

Why Read It: Dr. Jamison’s memoir offers a raw and honest account of living with bipolar disorder. As both a psychologist and someone diagnosed with the condition, she provides a unique perspective on managing mental illness with courage and insight.

Takeaway: Mental illness doesn’t define your worth or potential. With the right treatment and support, it’s possible to lead a fulfilling life, even with a complex diagnosis.

The book made appreciate my personal support system and the people in my life so much more. Its one thing to learn about mental health and clinical psychology, but it also affects the people around you tremendously. Learning to communicate your needs but also your boundaries, on both sides, is a necessary step to life a happy, healthy life even with any sort of disorder or chronic illness.

Perfect For: Readers seeking a deeper understanding of mood disorders or those navigating mental illness themselves.

9. The Good Life: Lessons from the World’s Longest Scientific Study of Happiness by Robert Waldinger and Marc Schulz

Why Read It: Yes, another book about happiness! But oh my goodness, has The Good Life changed my point of view on soooo many topics. It is based on the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the longest and most comprehensive studies on human happiness, which followed participants for over 80 years. Written by the study’s current director, Robert Waldinger, and co-author Marc Schulz, the book distills decades of research into practical insights on what truly leads to a fulfilling life. The authors explore how relationships, community, and purpose are the cornerstones of happiness and long-term wellbeing, with actionable lessons for readers to apply in their own lives. If this is in any way relevant to you, PLEASE watch the TEDtalk by Robert Waldinger.

Takeaway: The central message of the book is that the quality of our relationships—more than wealth, status, or fame—has the greatest impact on our happiness and longevity. Nurturing close connections and fostering meaningful interactions are key to a fulfilling life. On the contrary, it shows how detrimental the impact of loneliness is for the mental and physical health of people, especially the older folks around us. The study also highlights the importance of mental and physical health, emphasizing that taking care of both is essential for long-term happiness.

Reading it, it made me reach out to my extended family – great-grand-aunts and uncles, who live far away and usually dont answer the phone. I wrote them a letter. And I write them a card for every relevant holiday that comes up. Its such a small thing for me to do, but I understand it is more than relevant for them. I also focus on reducing loneliness for my clients by emphasizing the availability of activity groups, self-help groups and minimizing the challenges included when they want to visit friends.

Perfect For: Anyone looking for scientifically backed advice on how to live a more meaningful, connected life. Whether you’re seeking deeper relationships, greater emotional fulfillment, or a better understanding of happiness, this book offers wisdom grounded in decades of research.

10. Change Your Brain, Change Your Life by Dr. Daniel G. Amen

Why Read It: In Change Your Brain, Change Your Life, Dr. Daniel Amen uses his expertise as a psychiatrist and brain disorder specialist to explain how understanding brain function can dramatically improve mental health. The book offers practical strategies to manage conditions like anxiety, depression, and impulsiveness by targeting specific brain regions and using natural methods to enhance brain chemistry. Dr. Amen emphasizes that mental health is deeply connected to brain health, and by improving the latter, we can achieve a healthier, happier life.

Takeaway: Your brain shapes your thoughts, moods, and behaviors, but you can take control by understanding how specific brain regions influence mental health. Through targeted lifestyle changes, diet, and mindfulness techniques, you can literally change the way your brain functions and, in turn, change your life.

Dr. Amen was brought to my attention when I heard him say on the Diary of a CEO podcast „The human brain is the only human organ we diagnose and medicate without seing it“. So he made it a rule to brain-scan his patients. Like…wtf?!
Mental Health = Brain Health. I never thought about the impact a hobby like soccer, where you often hit your head with the ball, can hurt your brain and impair your brain function on the long term.
Mental Exercises and Mindfulness really change your brain: The book includes various exercises – which I often include in my clients and my own personal life – and mindfulness practices (here it goes again!!) to enhance brain function. Techniques like meditation and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) help calm overactive brain regions and improve emotional regulation.

Perfect For: Those looking to improve their mental health by focusing on brain function. The book is especially useful for people dealing with anxiety, depression, impulsivity, or even anger, offering science-backed strategies for brain optimization.

As always, this is just a small collection of books that i would recommend to anybody who wants to learn about mental health. The selection only includes science-backed literature. If you prefer a list of novels and fiction books that include mental health topics and show different ways of how characters deal with it, you can find those here.

Please note: Not every book pleases everyone. If you can offer additional helpful books or books that you loved when learning about mental health, please let me know in the comments!